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Jim M.

Jim M.

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I'm a semi-retired civil engineer living in Naples, Florida on the Gulf of Mexico. We have a wonderful powder-white soft sand beach with interesting shells. Love living in a beach town!

*** ATTENTION*** June 2016 Update: I am NO LONGER available to PACT with anyone. My sweet lady's cancer pain has worsened and I'm always close to jumping off DC with little notice to help her with all of her needs. Thanks for understanding...
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    We've had this challenge not that long ago.

    Hello DC friends. I'm not sure I will continue with DC but I'll give it a try for a bit. Those who have known me and my story of helping my wife Donna fight cancer, know its been a 4 year battle. With the things we've done at home, things that I've learned by reading on honest sites on the internet & other places we kept the oncologists amazed. They started calling Donna the Magic Patient.

    We were winning the battle, but in truth we were extending her life by a year or so. Donna passed away in my arms just after midnight on 8/24.

    So, old Jim is taking it VERY hard. These are the saddest days of my life. I'm signing up for grief counseling at hospice -- Donna wanted to start her trip to heaven in her mother's old antique bed so we used Hospice Home Care. They are the most wonderful people in the world. I would call Hospice at 2:00 AM because Donna's condition had changed; 15 minutes after hanging up the phone there would be a Hospice nurse knocking at my door. Truly amazing.

    Donna wanted her clothing donated to the Naples Woman's Shelter Thrift Store. They supply women at their shelter with clothing but the thrift store makes money selling the items to keep the shelter going. So far I've taken 4 car loads. She had 300 blouses in her walk-in closet. She had tons of shoes, I have boxes of pants & jeans that I can hardly lift and wall hangings, paintings, little figurines, etc. We were not wealthy, most of her clients were millionaires living beachfront and they would get tired of something and give it to Donna. Lots of widows; she was their housekeeper but also a friend. Everyone loved Donna & they all cried on the telephone when I called them to announce her passing.

    My goal is to be rid of Donna's things as she requested, then reduce my belongings by 50% and leave our big (rented) condo that we called home for 7 years. Then I move 140 miles north to my brothers home near Lakeland, Florida. He insists that I live with him & his wife. They have a big home & land with cattle and horses. My son & daughter w/ grandchildren live in the area or at least a lot closer than Naples.

    Well, I didn't mean to write a book, but that happens when you're all alone and a tragedy occurs. People, friends, don't hang out when you're in battle with serious disease. Sometimes they can't deal with the sadness & I don't blame them there. Donna's decorations are all over this home but she's no longer here; strange feeling. It's just me working everyday donating things and boxing things up. I worked until 4:00 AM this morning. I'm not doing well with this loss. I feel pretty bad. I didn't even drive my car for the first 8 or 10 days because my mind is not working well. I'm doing better, but feel like my brain is functioning at 50% or less.
    I'll try to stay on DC for a while. maybe it will help.
    Peace.

    "Read about the different types of allergies"

    September 25, 2016 at 15:22 UTC
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      Nina K. replied September 26, 2016 at 2:18 UTC:

      Dear Jim.... I feel so blessed that you have taken the time to let us in on your world right now. Your post is so deep and real, I can only say, that you are a very strong man is so many ways and you are loved. Take one moment at a time if you can, We will be here no matter ...see more

    • Maretta W.
      Maretta W. replied September 26, 2016 at 3:20 UTC:

      Jim you are a strong person. Donna was blessed to have your tender and caring love!

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    Jim M. is taking time away from Daily Challenge and will be back on September 25, 2016.

    I'm taking a break for the grieving process to take hold and bring my spirits back.

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    My little Mermaid turned into an Angel with lovely wings in the first hour of this very day. She's free of her cancer pain and flew into the arms of God.

    Her wonderful sisters came to help me a week ago. We lost any communication ability with her Saturday morning. I layed by her side, talking to her about our beach days and many trips together because Hospice said hearing is the last thing to leave a person. Talked to her, played music and she passed away in her mother's old bed as were her wishes. Donna was a part of me as I was a part of her.
    Peace.....

    "Learn signs and symptoms of shingles"

    August 24, 2016 at 14:31 UTC
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      Jami D. replied August 30, 2016 at 5:00 UTC:

      Jim, I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your dearly loved wife. Sincere condolences and may you find peace and comfort knowing she is in no more pain, but with our Heavenly Father. My thoughts, love and prayers are with you. Peace and love. ♡ Jami

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      Nina K. replied September 1, 2016 at 5:58 UTC:

      Oh dear Jim, I am so, so sorry to hear that your darling girl, Donna passed on. Because of you we all got to know her through your beautiful loving eyes. Always remember that the deep and enduring love that you and Donna shared is always alive and never goes away. I pray for ...see more

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    Jim M. is taking time away from Daily Challenge and will be back on September 4, 2016.

    I'm taking a break to take care of my wife during her illness.

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    Hello my DC Family. I'm just checking in for the day, then checking out again. Life has turned upside down for Donna & I in the last 2 weeks. She has gone from stopping the cancer growth & proudly wearing the badge of 'Miracle Patient' to her doctor cancelling appointments and placing her into Hospice Care at home.

    As her patient advocate & caregiver I do everything I can to keep her comfortable. We have Avow Hospice here in Naples, Florida & they are incredibly caring professionals. Their go-to pain relief drug is liquid morphine which I administer to Donna every 4 or 5 hours. We're new at this and Donna had nausea after her dose. I called Avow to discuss her nausea and a Hospice nurse is at my door 45 minutes later. They're amazing. The doctors give lots of opinions on timelines for Donna so I'll just cherish each day.

    She has two older sisters, one in Central Florida, one in Wisconsin. The Florida sister will be here Tuesday for a week & the other will follow for a week. They are wonderful girls who will enjoy being with their baby sister and give me the time off that I need. Donna is 59 years old. We live less than 5 miles from the beach & I've not seen it for a year. Time to take of old Jim as well.
    I'll check in again soon.
    Peace.....

    "Plan 1 activity you can do with another person in the next week"

    August 14, 2016 at 13:56 UTC
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